Why do we choose to focus more on negative?

A friend of mine was out on a date , which she said was going great, until her boy-friend brought up an old incident and made fun of how she had reacted then. “It left me teary eyed ….. I felt humiliated and it spoilt my evening completely,” she said.
The boyfriend apologised profusely, assuring her that he meant it as a joke and did not mean to hurt her. The laughter and the good times that had preceded that incident almost ceased to exist for my friend and all she could think of  was the jibe that had been made. In return she showered him with angry comments.

The incident left me thinking, in life, do we prefer to dwell more on the negative than on the positive? A great relationship, job or a friendship suddenly seem less than they actually are, the moment there is an unsavoury turn of events. Many of us find it impossible to forget that incident or forgive the people attached to it. If we do not reward our friends, partners, colleagues constantly for the good things they do for us, why punish them the moment something goes wrong? To step back and look at the bigger picture may show truly insignificant that one negative incident is, in the face of all the good times.

Published by ANKIT VERMA

I believe in love and relationship because that's the thing in our life that give us a motivation to do anything. Otherwise there's nothing to do because there's big blank if someone ask question like for what ? For example you got lot of money and there's no one around you then what you do with that answer is what ? Blank. SO relation is must dose'n matter it's positive or negative but it must.

20 thoughts on “Why do we choose to focus more on negative?

  1. Yes you are right one negative incident can overpower all the positive things attached in any relationship.
    Sometimes it is too difficult to forgive and forget the negative incident and live with the positive one. Yes of course it is better to forgive and move with positive thoughts.

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      1. Yes you are right. But ironically it is difficult only in cases of our best relationships. It is easy to forget and forgive near ones perhaps but for the dearest it keep comings in our mind. No doubt ony by forgiving one can free himself and herself from the whole situation. So its better to forgive.

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  2. Negative thoughts are like weed; they need no sunshine, water, care or nurturing to grow and can even grow through concrete!

    Very nice article buddy! Really makes one think of the things we choose to focus on…

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  3. Outstanding post…it is up to each of us to learn how to forgive every minute of every day. I think that a lot of the DIS-EASE that individuals have are just that, they hold on to grudges, resentment, and forgiveness. This creates an imbalance in the body. So staying positive is the answer my friend. Learning to Let GO! Jackie

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